Ten Years In

Do you know what the statistics are for couples who get married under the same circumstances that Michael and I did? I don't know either. But I know they're not good.

Someone actually told me, shortly before we got married, that Michael and I would be divorced within five years.

There is a lot of literature out there about how to deal with strong-willed people but sometimes being a strong-willed person has it's benefits.

So here we are, ten years in.

I'm not going to say it's been perfect. There have been a lot of moments that haven't even been good. I will tell you that we are the happiest we've ever been. I feel closer to Michael and we have more fun together than we've ever had before.

So, ten years in...what lessons have I learned?

Well, I've learned that whether or not I am happy is my choice and my responsibility.  If I'm not happy and my attitude stinks, it's not Michael's fault.

Michael is not only my husband, the father of my children, but also my brother in Christ. And all of the teachings that Christ did about how I should treat my neighbor...apply to my relationship with Michael.

TV shows, media and the world are not good measures of what a marriage should be. Their marriage advice comes from a worldly perspective, not a godly one. Be very careful about taking advice from them or modeling a relationship after them.

It is freeing to submit. This is probably my biggest issue.  Michael doesn't have to earn my respect or my submission. I submit to Michael because I love and trust God. He has my respect because of WHOSE he is, not who he is.

Prayer is more powerful than nagging.

God's plan is awesome. It works. It is so much better than the ones men come up with.

I suspect that at the end of the next ten years I'll still have learned the same lessons, but hopefully I'll be a little better at living them out.

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