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It's kind of a cliche to make resolutions this time of year. It's also kind of a cliche for those resolutions to be short lived.

I've honestly never been one to make New Year's resolutions, but I have made a lot of resolutions at varying times of the year...most of which have failed.

But I'll be honest, I've come to love failure almost as much as I love success. Sure, it doesn't feel good to least not in the moment...and if people are watching...but every time I fail I learn something. I can give you a 101 ways NOT to lose weight (which, let's face it...they really ALL boil down to ONE way)...but it took me failing all of those times to figure out how to do it right.

Here's the thing, I didn't just wake up one morning with the will power to not eat all the donuts in the house. I woke up one morning depressed and feeling hopeless and in that depression and hopelessness I cried out to God and confessed that I couldn't do it on my own and that I need him.

So for what it's worth (and I warned you in the beginning that I don't know anything about anything and this is not a blog you'll be learning much from) here's my two cents on how go about goal/resolution setting:

1.  Seek God's kingdom FIRST. Get our priorities straight...making sure we're setting goals for God's glory and not our own.

2.  Pray. And pray often. Every. Single. Time. you think about your goals or something you want to change or someone you are at odds with or something you're thankful for. Basically, pray without ceasing. (See??? No new information here...I warned you!!!) If it concerns you, pray about it.

3.  Set aside a time of reflection and planning. Go somewhere quiet, wait until your kids are asleep or you can sneak away for a few minutes...relax, treat yourself, pray and set your goals. Think about where you want to be a year from now...and then ask yourself what you can do this week to move toward those goals and set some goals for this week. And then each night before you go to sleep...pray and then think about what you can do the next day to meet your weekly goals.

4.  Be thankful. When even the smallest of goals is achieved thank God. Recognize His power and work in your life and thank Him.

On that note, here are the goals I've set for myself this year:

Personal (I include my spiritual goals in this category)
  • get up and have quiet time first thing in the morning
  • get to goal weight
  • create a functional/fashionable wardrobe 
  • avoid self pity--have a positive/joyful attitude specifically about Michael's time away from home
  • develop closer friendships
  • develop more effective routines for homekeeping
  • learn about and implement gardening/canning
  • set up specific "work time"/be more intentional about blogging/developing skills/learning
  • go visiting once a week
  • Get house "hospitality ready"
  • work on being more "faithful"
  • Be more consistent with "Bible Bedtime"
  • pay off debt
  • watch less tv
  • find ways to serve neighbors/community
  • be more intentional about family prayer times
  • be more consistent with family Bible reading together
  • Utilize a bulletin board for prayer lists/calendar/Fancher Central
  • More physical activity together
  •  more consistent with routines
  • organize/decorate kids rooms so they're easier to keep clean
  • less yelling and more patience, joy and fun
  • provide more opportunities for creativity
  • be more intentional about prayer for kids
  • be more intentional in relationship building/"quality time"
  • be more "faithful" or dependable
  • dates once a week
  • be more intentional about expressing appreciation and respect
  • be more joyful and complain less
Do you have any goals for this year? I'd love to hear them!!


  1. We share many of the same goals...I really want to take charge of my girls spiritual education, yell less and just be more "present" as a mother. Sometimes I feel like I'm on auto unfair to them. And I really want to learn to become a morning person! Up before my kids, having accomplished something like a workout, and ready to greet them when they wake up! Right now, I'm a zombie until 10:30. Thanks for the reminder to pray. Sometimes I talk to everyone BUT God about what I want...thankful for those people that I have in my life, but I still should be laying all those things at HIS feet first.


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