I don't eat breakfast. Gasp! I don't and I don't feel guilty about it. I used to and I would force myself, or I would start the day feeling like a failure. But I finally came to the realization that sometimes I have to just do my best and feel okay about that. So I don't eat breakfast. In fact, I don't typically eat anything until after noon. Maybe eventually that will change, but for now, I'm focusing on eating good foods in good amounts at the times I DO eat and feeling okay with that.
For a long time I worked out at night. I know what "the experts" say. But at night after my kids were in bed was the time I felt most motivated. So instead of pressuring myself to get up earlier and workout first thing, I worked out at night and it worked really well for me. Recently I've started working out first thing in the morning. Not because the experts tell me to, but because at this point in my life, I am motivated to do that.
The thing is, there are so many voices telling us what we should be doing. Or telling us how we should do it. A lot of these voices will tell you that if you don't do things a certain way that you might as well not do them at all. But I think that way of thinking does more harm than good. Yes, it's probably best to workout for at least 20 minutes, but you know what?! Any amount of time that you spend NOT sitting on your backside is good and beneficial. If you can't spend 20 minutes...spend five and feel good about that. If you feel good about that, you'll eventually feel motivated to do more. If you feel guilty because you only spent 5 minutes instead of 20 you are likely to quit.
This theory applies to Bible reading too! We all start the year off determined to read it through in a certain period of time and that is AWESOME. It's a great goal. But sometimes we get behind. And then it gets overwhelming trying to catch up. If you can't read 15 chapters every day, read one. Do what you can do RIGHT NOW. And learn to be okay with that.
We all have goals. We all have a place we want to be. But we can't all wake up with a never ending supply self discipline after a lifetime of severely lacking. This life is about growth. Not perfection.
People who run marathons don't just wake up one day and say 'hey! I'm going to run a marathon today'. They spend months and months training for it. They prepare. They start off running (or walking) one mile and they slowly build up to more until they build the endurance to run 26. Can you imagine seeing someone training for a marathon and walking up to them and saying "you only ran 10 miles, you're such a loser!" NO. Nobody would do that. Because we all understand that it takes time and training. So why do we do that to ourselves when it comes to things like eating healthy, working out or reading our Bibles?
It's a process. It's training for our ultimate goal. It's about growth.